In the world of social media, everyone is quick to announce their achievements, plans, and goals. They go to a new gym class one time, and we all know about it. Taking the time to disappear and really grow without anyone applauding our every move is where true transformation takes place. So if you’re serious about your goals, read on.
Disappearing Isn’t Quitting
Reevaluating what you actually want doesn’t mean you’re failing or giving up. As we grow, staying aligned with the new version of ourselves can make us feel lost, so take time to create space for yourself. Clarity will come when you allow yourself to reset and refocus. This is the perfect time to do some inner work and get in touch with your true self.
Transformation Requires Solitude
In order to transform your life, you need to start doing things differently. Nothing changes if nothing changes. When a caterpillar becomes a butterfly, it must first step away from the world to allow its transformation to happen. We can do the same thing in the form of unplugging from the digital world of social media, spending more time with ourselves, setting stronger boundaries, and saying no more often to stay focused on our own goals. When we do this, we give ourselves the space we need to change our lives.
You Don’t Owe the World a Constant Update
We are so used to posting everything we do during the day, but stepping back from this gives the much-needed room for growth. By taking even a month away from social media to focus on your own goals, you will stop consuming and comparing your life to strangers on the internet and have so much more time and focus for yourself.
Imagine when a store or building gets a remodel — they cover it up so the outside world can’t see. Then, when it’s complete, they have a grand unveiling. You can do the same: disappear, do the work, and come back to show everyone your results.
How to “Disappear and Transform” in Real Life
Here are some practical steps to help you achieve your transformation:
- Delete or hide social media apps for a week or more.
This allows you the time and space to focus on yourself instead of being constantly distracted by everyone else’s lives. - Journal daily to connect with your real thoughts.
Getting everything out of your head and down on paper will help you feel focused and be able to reflect on what you truly want, instead of what you think you want. - Create a morning or evening routine for clarity.
This is time set aside for you. Creating a regular habit will allow your day to flow and help you get more done. - Set boundaries and protect your peace.
Sometimes we just need to say no. Every time we say yes to one thing, we are saying no to something else. You only have a limited amount of time and energy, so use it to work on what makes you happy. - Work on a goal without announcing it.
This is a skill not many have. Learning how to master this will help you achieve so much more.
The Quiet Season Is Sacred
You don’t need permission to work on yourself in private. Setting goals and achieving them without distraction or interruption will show you what you can really do when you set your mind to it. Everyone — some unintentionally and some intentionally — will want to give their thoughts and opinions on what you are doing, so only give them the opportunity to comment on your success.