There’s so much more to life than just waking up, scrolling, working, and sleeping. So many of us just go through the same motions day after day hoping our lives will miraculously change. It’s time to take matters into our own hands and start building that dream life. You can build a life you’re obsessed with and it starts with one small choice at a time. Here’s how.
1. Get Clear on What “Dream Life” Means to You
Everyone’s dream life will look completely different, so before you build it, you’ve gotta know what it looks like. Take out your pen and paper and reflect on these questions. Try and get as deep and specific as you can so you know what you’re aiming for.
Ask yourself:
- What does my ideal day look like?
- Where do I live? How do I feel waking up?
- What kind of work lights me up?
- How do I spend my free time?
- Who’s around me? What kind of energy is in my space?
Once you have journaled on these points, turn your answers into a script you can read over and over (make sure you do this in present tense). You can also create a vision board to go with it—add images and affirmations of your new life.
2. Learn to Let Go
You can’t build a dream life if your time and energy are consumed with clutter. Learning to get go of negative emotions, physical items, commitments or anything else that doesn’t fit into your dream life will help you create space for what you want. Setting strong boundaries with yourself can be incredibly hard especially if you tend to be a people pleaser. Think about the best version of you and how they spend their time. I’m sure they don’t waste hours searching through clutter for that dress they can’t find, or have precious weekends booked up taking expensive trips to hen parties that they don’t actually want to go to. Saying no can be hard but every time you say yes to something you don’t want to do you’re saying no to yourself and YOUR dreams.
3. Upgrade Your Mindset Daily
Mindset is everything. Your dream life starts in your mind. If you don’t believe you can achieve the life of your dreams, you never will. Embrace a positive mindset and start saying affirmations that will help build you up, such as:
- “I am capable of creating a life I love.”
- “Everything I desire is already on its way.”
- “I get to choose joy, freedom, and growth.”
Repeat these affirmations daily to rewire the subconscious connections in your mind. You can also use visualisation to help boost your mindset. Close your eyes and imagine your perfect day playing out in front of you. Your brain can’t tell the difference between imagined reality and actual reality, so this helps your manifestations come alive quicker.
Lastly, gratitude practices are your secret weapon for changing how you see the world. People who practice gratitude daily retrain their brains to look for the good in every situation, eventually leading to a naturally more optimistic outlook on life.
4. Take Aligned (Not Perfect) Action
Building a life you’re obsessed with takes time, but the best time to start is right now. You don’t need to wait for everything to already be perfect to start. Do something today that moves you closer to the life you want. This could be something as small as signing up to a new gym class or pushing yourself to start your side hustle or YouTube channel.
Taking action towards your new life may seem scary, so break it down into small goals. This could be making your CV or setting up the account for your website. Tiny actions like this add up over time and help build your motivation and confidence.
5. Create Routines That Support Your Glow-Up
Look back at your dream life you wrote down earlier and use this as a template to figure out what habits you need to add into your life to build your dream life. When you add these habits into your daily routine, you take out the friction and decision-making each day of should you do X habit. When it’s your routine, it becomes automatic.
Try building simple routines like:
- Morning rituals with journaling, movement, or affirmations
- A weekly reset day to plan, rest, and reflect
- Nighttime habits that help you feel grounded and cozy
When you add structure into your life like this, it helps you become intentional with your time and energy.
6. Surround Yourself With Expansive Energy
Building your dream life requires a lot of energy, so ensuring you are surrounding yourself with people who inspire and drive you makes it much easier to chase your goals. Friendships and connections with others in the real world will have the biggest impact on us. But if you’re struggling to find a high-energy support network, try listening to empowering podcasts or reading personal growth books.
Your online communities also have a huge impact on the person who you are and who you are becoming. Remove any negative energy from your social media feed and follow uplifting, inspiring accounts that, when you see them, give you an energy boost.
7. Celebrate the Life You’re Already Building
Building a life you’re obsessed with can take time to become your full reality, but that doesn’t mean you have to wait until it’s perfect to be happy and proud of yourself. Celebrate small wins during your journey. You are already living a life you dreamed of before—so enjoy it right now.
You Are the Architect of Your Life
You have the power to make your life exactly how you want it to be. You don’t need permission from anyone to start chasing your dreams. Just because everyone else is doing one thing doesn’t mean you need to. Create your own path and start right now.